I have heard several online dating guru’s preach about their unique strategies, but all of them actually placed universal importance on the online dating profile pictures. I recommend at least 5 profile pics, but not more than ten. My last profile had 7. I use the same photos for all my online dating profiles. There’s a ton of sites on how to take better profile pics, the link below is one of the better ones, and has some good sample pics, even if he is a bit wordy. Have a look at it, and scroll down to the section titled “The best main Tinder photos for your profile”, and keep reading until you get to section 5. “The best Tinder photos are high quality”. Different photography techniques is next level stuff that you can tackle outside of this tutorial. I personally don’t think it’s mandatory, although I recommend taking multiple snaps in a given situation, as quality can vary between pictures.
So here are some of the main points you should have gathered from tinder seduction guy, particularly for your main profile picture, the one that makes them click on your profile:
The pic should be a solo (just you) waist-up/head shot. Unless you have a really good head shot, I’d go with the waist up, or at least something that starts below your chest. Just like us, girls want to have an idea of what someone’s body looks like, and just a head shot could give the impression that you’re hiding something.
Don’t wear a hat, sunglasses or regular glasses. They hide your features, and that again raises suspicion. If you’re bald, go bald, and if you have tumbleweeds covering parts of your head, then trim them off and go bald. If you have glasses, and you don’t wear contacts, then I can excuse this, but I still think it’s better not to wear glasses in the main profile pic, and wear your glasses in the other pics.
Smile. This looking away from the camera, trying to be mysterious crap works for models, and really good looking guys. Play it safe, look at the camera and smile. A genuine smile comes as much from the eyes as from the mouth. A guy who smiles with his mouth but not his eyes, is fake smiling, and this can look creepy. For some reason women can fake smile all the time and its normal. I think this says something about society but I’m not sure what lol.
Do not use bathroom mirror selfies. There is something deeply narcissistic and simple minded about them. In fact I recommend not using selfies at all, with one exception. The best profile pics for men are caught in the moment, where you’re out having fun, doing something. They tell, or hint at a story, even if it’s short on details. If you can successfully convey this in a selfie, then it can pass. For example suppose you’re out on your surfboard, the sun is setting, and you feel really good and in the moment. Then you reach for your Go-Pro to snap a selfie, and smile. That can work. However it requires you to be naturally photogenic, and a good poser. I find it’s easier to have someone take a picture of me. A persons more likely to smile naturally when they’re out with friends than by themselves, and I find other people bring me out of my own head. If you want to show off your body, instead of a pic in your bathroom, choose a more tasteful option like at the beach.
Taking all of the above into account, have a look at the following picture:
There are a lot of good things happening here. Yes, this is showing well below waist level, but because he’s sitting down, the picture achieves almost the same level of magnification as a waist up shot. More importantly while the scenery is beautiful, the dimensions of the pic are done perfectly for framing him and his prop the dog, making him the clear centre of attention. That smile is genuine and on point. Both man and dog are very happy in each other’s company. A lot of sites will tell you to take pics with dogs cause girls love dogs. If you do not like dogs, say you think they’re smelly, they make you nervous or annoyed, then don’t take a picture with them. If you are not having fun, then it will be hard to get a good pic. And you’ll have to start explaining your love of dogs to some girl who msg’ed you about that dog pic…and it’s just not worth it. Find what you like and enjoy, do that stuff, and then document it.
Continuing that last thought, if you are having trouble finding good photos then the solution might be just to get out more, and remember to take a quick pic while doing it. Take a cue from girls, who are forever posing for pics every time they leave the house. It’s just to feed their instagram and tinder profiles. It’s a good idea to copy this behaviour, at least until you have some good pics for your profile.
One final thought, and I know this is harsh but…don’t be fat. You do not have to have a six pack, or be a muscley gorilla, but girls are essentially looking for a reason to filter out all the guys who are messaging them, and if you are overweight you just gave them one. Remember this is a very superficial game we’re playing, and you are up against every other guy out there. And I admit that I could make better use of this advice myself. If I was in better shape my matches would definitely improve. The best way to judge if you are overweight? Have someone take a picture of you. This way you can look at yourself from a third person point of view, which works better than looking at yourself in the mirror. Get a trusted friend’s opinion who’ll be honest and not sugar coat things. If you are overweight then learn about nutrition, and change your eating habits. This is usually an even bigger factor than fitness. And start going to the gym. Learn about fitness, get a trainer, whatever it is that you need to do. In fact if you realize that you are overweight, and/or lacking in good photos, then I recommend just spending a month or two working on your body and having more adventures before even worrying about messaging girls. The next page discusses how to choose the best non-main profile pictures, and includes examples from my last profile.