As requested by reader Frank from Montreal, a quick non-alphabetical glossary of the pickup terms used on this website.
Note: I’m aware there’s a lot more PUA terms out there, but I’m limiting it to whatever I’ve used on this website. Let me know if I’ve missed anything
PUA – a modern day pickup artist. My definition of this is a guy who approaches and flirts with a girl(s) in a situation, where they would otherwise have never met (a cold approach).
Approach – All physical motions required to initiate a conversation with someone. Could include walking towards someone, to simply making eye contact. Some people might include initial conversation starter in this as well, but I classify that under the term “open”. Eg. A PUA approaches and opens a girl.
Open – After an approach is made, the first thing you say to someone to initiate a conversation.
Cold Approach – approaching someone you don’t know, in a situation where if you hadn’t taken the initiative to approach them and open, you would have never met.
Approach anxiety – a guy’s fear of approaching and opening someone, usually an attractive girl(s). The fear is related to looking foolish, being humiliated, or being rejected. It can act as a mental block, preventing a PUA’s progress if it’s not overcome.
AFC – average frustrated chump. A somewhat derogatory term used by PUA’s to refer to non-PUA men who are left frustrated by their lack of success with women.
Banter line – a comment to open someone (initiate conversation), or to throw into a conversation to elicit interest from the other party.
Inner game – Term for developing the correct mindset required to progress as a PUA. Generally refers to overcoming negative, defeatist thoughts, and developing confidence, and an abundance mentality. Basically think positive and overcome negativity.
IOI – Indicator of interest. Refers to unconscious actions that women make when they become attracted to a man.
Kino – Nonsexual physical contact initiated to develop rapport with someone and make them comfortable.
Mystery Method – PUA techniques and theory developed by the PUA self styled as Mystery.
Neg – A comment or action meant to lower a women’s self-esteem, while actively displaying a lack of interest.
Oneitis – When a man falls in love with a girl who is strictly a plutonic friend.
Set – The girl(s) around him that a PUA can potentially approach and talk to.
Sarge – An allocated period of time to go out and approach sets. Either by oneself or with a wing.
Wings – Fellow PUA’s to sarge with.